Why You Keep Not Doing The Things You KNOW You ‘Should’

You know that list you keep running through the back of your mind at all hours of the day?

The one filled with allllllll the stress-reducing, health-promoting, productivity-increasing things you could, need to, and really should start doing?

For most of my clients (and let's be honest, me too) this list looks something like:

• Exercise even more
• Start meditating
• Eat better. Hmm or maybe try that new juice cleanse
• Get off my phone and go to bed
• Get my inbox down to 0 emails
• Organize my office
• Go back to the tools I learned in therapy
• Listen to the podcast my friend said changed her life
• Read the stack of books I haven't touched

You get the point, this list can go on for PAGES.

And yet...It's funny how often in moments of exasperation we throw up our hands and default back to, 'I don't even know what to do!'.

GASP. Julia, are you implying that I do in fact know what I need to do?

I say this with love- Yes. You already know what you need to do.

Even in your most stressful, overwhelming, and dark moments - you have all of the answers within.

The problem isn't that you don't know what to do. 

What's actually getting in your way? See if any of the following resonates.

The problem might be:

• You don't actually let yourself feel your feelings and the messages they're carrying because you're afraid if you do they'll take over.
• You spend your time swirling in your head, analyzing, rationalizing, seeing what everyone else and google thinks instead of identifying your own answer.
• You're weighed down by so many shoulds, cultural and self-imposed expectations that choosing something new feels impossible
• You think that feeling calm, confident, and present isn't something 'normal' people work for - you're beating yourself up for needing to help yourself
• The thought of setting a boundary, making an ask, changing your schedule for your benefit, or letting someone down feels so uncomfortable you freeze.

If any of these 'problems' are resonating with you, I need you to know that they're not your fault. They're definitely not evidence of you not trying hard or doing enough. 

These problems stem from cultural norms, past trauma and resulting coping mechanisms, and a general lack of education around what it takes to cultivate an emotionally, mentally, spiritually, healthy life.

>> The first step in starting to really and truly show up for yourself, even if it's for something as small as tidying your office space, is deciding that you're worth it.

>> It's shedding the beliefs and stories telling you that this is just who you are, what you've always done, or all you're capable of.

>> It's holding yourself with unconditional love and acceptance as you move through the discomfort of creating change.

You KNOW deep in your bones that you're here to make an impact on the world. 

And that requires getting uncomfortable.

It requires unlearning the shit that keeps us playing small, pushing out of our comfort zones, and choosing new behaviors so that we can show up fully for ourselves, in our relationships, and our work.

You already know what you need to do.

Here's your permission slip to do the work, get whatever support you need, and shed the stories so you can start doing it.

Because you are already worth it.

I just released a brand new Shine Your Light Video Training and I think you're going to love it!

If you're ready to get out of your head and shine your light like the compelled leader you are - check it out HERE.